As I sit here and think of all of the comments I've seen on a recent article published about me, as an eight time post abortive woman, I am floored by the comments. Not because they are cruel, some are. Not because they are kind, some are. It is because there is such division among pro-lifers who classify themselves as Christians, when it comes to forgiveness and kindness towards post abortive women. In my last two blog posts, I talked about things that have been said to me a

The most common question I am asked after I speak, is "Tammi HOW DID YOU FORGIVE YOURSELF FOR HAVING SO MANY ABORTIONS?" I think you'd agree that this is a normal theme in our culture today. Self-Forgiveness! The thing that is most said about me is, "Maybe God can forgive her, but I doubt she could ever or how could she ever forgive herself?" To Forgive Oneself in my limited education is an oxymoron! To believe I can pardon myself for bad choices, harm done, mistakes made,

1) How Do You LIVE with yourself? 2) Why didn't you keep your legs shut? 3) Didn't you know what caused the pregnancy? 4) If you abort this baby you ARE going to hell. 5) You ARE going to hell because you aborted your baby. 6) I wish your mother aborted you. 7) You should be dismembered just as you dismembered your baby(ies) through abortion. 8) You don't deserve to be alive. You deserve the electric chair. 9) You're a disgusting excuse for a human being. You make me sick. 10

This was the title of an article posted about me on LifeNews.com yesterday. Evidently, they picked up this story from the PA PRO-LIFE Federation and put it to their FB, Twitter and Website. The title of the article was interesting because it was the same question I asked myself for years. It's the same question many of you are asking now. When I started to see the comments made by pro-lifers on this article, I was more surprised than I thought I'd be. I was shocked to read

A few weeks ago, I had the honor of doing an interview taping with Micaiah Bilger, of the Pennsylvania PRO-LIFE Federation for their Lifelines radio show. Because I talk so much, we ended up doing a two part interview. Poor Micaiah, she was so gracious! The first part focused on my story and the second on my thoughts on pro-life work and approaches. Overall, I think it went well, but I wasn't the one tasked with editing for times sake. I should preface my blog post, by sayin

Last weekend I attended a Rachel's Vineyard retreat in Southcentral PA. If you are like me, you may have never heard of them before now. I didn't either until 2012 when a director from a local pregnancy center in York shared a RV brochure with me. I have to admit when it was given to me, I was angry. Furious to be more precise. I had just shared a snippet of my personal experience with abortions and next thing you know I'm getting these brochures in the mail. I was incensed

I was a born again, spirit filled believer for a little under a year when I cried out to God again in agony comparable then only to the day He saved me in April 2004. I was driving on 83 South returning from a visit to my Lebanon office ( I had 8 at the time) when unprovoked, I began to remember my abortions, some of them anyway. The grief and shame that overcame me was crushing. I felt as if the very breath, God had breathed into me less than a year earlier, was being sucked

One of the most painful moments during my post-abortive healing journey has been when I see a child from behind, and I cannot see their little face, sometimes I try so hard, but cannot. This doesn't happen all the time, but when it does its excruciating. And if it did happen frequently, I'm not sure I could live this thing called life apart from the love of friends and the Spirit of the Living God. The pain is horrific at times, but I am no longer unforgiven. They don't tel